I know you don’t always know what to say to me, but I get it. You may feel uncomfortable when I’m in the room and the discussion about mom’s come up.
But honestly, there isn’t anything worse than the I’m so sorry’s and the way a person’s face and voice changes when they realize that you lost someone that close to you. Especially way earlier than you should have.
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciated so much the way people were sympathetic towards me during this time. I appreciated every kind word and gesture given to me.
I don’t want to be treated differently because I’m the girl without a mom.
I don’t want to get special treatment or people to feel that they have to sugar coat things around me. This is my life and it is who I am now. I have fully accepted that this is my new reality and what my life will be for the remainder of it.
As much as this new reality sucks, it’s what it is. It defines me and will continue to be a large part of who I am.
Every big moment that happens from here on out, it will be noticeable that my mom isn’t there.
Every single time someone asks me “what about your mom” I will have to explain all over again that mine now resides in heaven.
It may be weird to you that I am able to talk about and be so open with the fact that my mom died.
I understand that this may not be easy for you either.
But please, please, please, don’t treat me any differently. Save the sad faces and the voice change. I don’t need to hear how you could never imagine going through this or you don’t know how I’m doing so well.
Just remember I could never have imagined this happening. Remember that I am doing this well because I am fighting every single day to be the person my mom raised me to be.
This isn’t easy. It never will be. But the best thing you can do for me is treating me the same way that you treat everyone else.
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