For any of us who do not have our mother in our life, whether it is by choice or by death, I think we can all relate and agree that Mother’s Day may possibly be the worst and most dreaded day of the year.
I mean what is worse than an entire day reminding you of the fact that your mom is no longer with you?
What is worse than the weeks leading up to it where every commercial, advertisement and stand at the store is a reminder that you do not have your mom to spend this day with?
People who have not been through this have a hard time understanding what this day is to us. We often want to be left alone. We are distant. We are sad. Oftentimes, for the people in my life, there is nothing that they can do right. I am emotional, numb, and angry and the best thing for anyone to do for me is to just let me be.
This day is really hard for us. It is a reminder that our mom is no longer here and it is a reminder of how many people around us still do have a mother in their life to spend today with and to celebrate.
It’s a really lonely feeling that is difficult to put into words unless you have lived through it.
The day is very isolating.
It’s very painful.
It’s a day that you just want to sleep through and wake up when it’s over.
It’s a day social media is a very miserable place. Everywhere you look there is a collage or a post explaining how thankful they are to have their mom. With every post, it brings sadness that reminds you that you would do anything to have your mom here with you, today, and every day.
So be kind to those you know who have to spend Mother’s Day without a mom. Follow their lead. Don’t be upset by their actions. Allow them to feel. Allow them to cry. Allow them to handle this day however they need to because there is no right way to grieve the loss of someone who is no longer with us.
As I always say, it is only one day and it will be over before we know it.
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Also, here are some great resources for anyone who has lost a mother
https://www.facebook.com/iamamotherlessdaughter/
https://www.facebook.com/Motherless-Daughters-153858391294874/?fref=ts
This is so true, after losing my mother , I dread mother’s day regardless of the fact that it has been 10 years since her passing.